5 Things Moms Need to Tell Themselves Every Morning
Yesterday I wrote about how hard being a mom is and what I do when I feel like I just can’t keep going. But I forgot to mention one little practice that I started this year, and it has seriously made all the difference in the world in improving my “internal resources,” that I wrote about yesterday.
Every morning, when I wake up early to have my coffee and quiet time, I tell myself a few key things. These affirmations help me get my mind right, and often they help weed out negative beliefs that I didn’t even know I was holding onto until one of these affirmations contradicts them.
God has chosen me, before the beginning of time, to be their mom. (Ephesians 1:4) As messy and disorganized and scatterbrained as I am, I’m the one He chose for these people. All my days were written to help and benefit all their days, and we fit together perfectly—even if it doesn’t seem so on a particularly hard day.
Or for some of them, even on easy days, it seems odd that God matched us up. My oldest son is the king of all athletics, which already puts us in different lanes. He bounces balls inside (grrrrrrrr) and asks to play on the playground after school even when it’s raining, and it’s all so crazy to me. But God made him mine for a reason. He has a sweet and deferential spirit that is such a good balance to his alpha sports-king persona, and I know he would never have that without God making us a pair.
God has equipped me to raise these children the way He planned for them to be raised. (Ephesians 1:3, 2 Timothy 3:17)
There’s nothing to be afraid of! If I’m following Him, even if I stumble in my parenting, He will not let me ruin these kids. (Psalm 37:24)
When our oldest daughter was 2, she was really strong-willed and prone to throwing tantrums. And I used to think to myself that I had somehow already ruined her by not parenting her correctly or having another baby too soon or whatever it was that day. Now that she’s twelve; she is calm, analytical, and really into reading National Geographic. Her personality is nothing like her 2 year old self and also nothing like me, which means I had nothing to do with it. Moral of the story: it all shakes out okay in the end if we just trust Him.
Apart from Him, I CAN DO NOTHING. One of my favorite verses is John 15:5, but I word it like this to speak truth to myself: “I am the vine; you are the branches. If a [MOM] remains in Me and I in [her], [she] will bear much fruit. Apart from Me, [she] can do nothing.”
I am smart, capable, and strong; I can do every single thing that He calls me to do through Jesus. He will give me an answer for every hard situation I might face. (1 Samuel 2:1) (Philippians 4:6) Have y’all seen the movie The Help? “You is kind, you is smart, you is important.” And we are!! We need to remember, just like Hannah did in the Old Testament, that God has made us strong for whatever we’re facing. And we already possess all those good qualities we’re seeing in other people that make them look so strong and smart and important.
I know you’ve probably heard all these statements before. But if we really let them sink deep into our bones, if we say them out loud to ourselves while we’re getting dressed in the morning, or repeat them to ourselves while we’re trying to get that jog in—if we get committed to speaking truth to ourselves about the mom that God created for our family—I think it changes the course of our day!
So many times, I feel like I’m not equipped to handle whatever comes up in the day. But God says that He has already given me everything I need in His word and with the Holy Spirit that He has already placed within me. I just have to PRACTICE telling myself that and believe that it’s true, and He will make all the mountains that seem impossible to climb into level paths for me (Isaiah 49:11).
You’ve got this, friend. We don’t give ourselves these reminders so that we can be perfect moms; we give ourselves these reminders so that we can continue showing up every day and be consistent moms. And we still won’t always get it right, but I really believe that if we speak these true statements over ourselves we will start to see our confidence grow! You are exactly the right mom for this time in your children’s lives. With His truth, you will grow them up to do great things!!